From bad to good

At the beginning of the summer, my partner and I had a discussion wherein I learned that the University we met at was not his first choice. He went here because he did not get into the program he wanted at another school. This made me start thinking about all of the things that had to happen for he and I to meet. Skipping the obvious idea that we both had to be born and the like, we both had to graduate high school in high enough standing to get into our school. He had to not get into his first choice. He had to have met the guy years before that would be his roommate and then live with him. My cousin had to go to our university and then not graduate in four years. Then my cousin and the roommate had to move in together. They then throw a party and both my partner and I had to be available and willing to go. And finally, we had to run into each other at this party.

And that is just to meet. We didn't start dating for months. In fact, after that party, we didn't speak until we ran into one another at another at another party the next school year at the same house! So many little details had to go exactly right for us to be together and that is just one relationship in my life.

I challenge you to think of an important relationship or moment in your life and think about how things had to be for you to end up the way you did. Did you do it?

Now that you have thought about all the things that lead to your moment or relationship, did it include any bad moments? Did it include your weaknesses? Your failures? Mine did. Like I said my partner didn't get into his first choice school but he wasn't the only one whose failures contributed to our love story. The first night we met I got drunk and made out with a guy that I didn't know. My friend then stopped me by saying it was time to go and I was upset with myself. I didn't like that I had gotten so sloppy drunk, though I wasn't all the sloppy. I had let myself down. BUUUUUTTTTTT, the reason why he decided he wanted to date me is because I approached him at the second party by simply saying, 'didn't I make out with you?' knowing full well I had. He thought it was cute and funny and he wanted to get to know me better.

My failure turned into something wonderful. When you start to feel bad and like everything is the worst pick one big moment from your life and think of everything that had to line up for that to happen. Think of all the bad that lead to it. And remember that the bad you experience may be part of something so much better. Mine did.