Response to last Friday's post

So my last post, for those of you that haven't read it, was about wanting what we can't have and the effects of this in my own life. Someone quite close to me responded to this in a critical manner. They said it seemed like I was focusing more on what I couldn't have than on the good I do have. And maybe that is true. Maybe I do tend to analyze the not-so-good instead of focusing on the good. But why is that? Is it because I'm a cynic, my mother might argue to that point and with good reason. Is it because Is it due to a chemical imbalance in my anatomy? Or is it because I like to ask why?

When I started thinking about what this person said, I realized that maybe it came down to the same reason as last week. I am scared. I tend to analyze things if you hadn't noticed and I guess there is a part of me that is afraid to look at the good that I have for fear that I might analyze it and realize there is something wrong with it. I would rather hide that good away to protect it from the scalpel of my mind than hold it close and enjoy it. It is like people who keep action figures in the box instead of playing with them. If you take it out of the box, it won't be worth as much and could easily break.

So that's what the good in my life is. It is kept in a box for safety. Because ultimately, I am too scared to lose the value of that good.

Something interesting for the week

Just something I found interesting and insightful. I think my favorite tip is to be silly with your partner.



http://jamesrusselllingerfelt.wordpress.com/2013/08/15/beautiful-advice-from-a-divorced-man-after-16-years-of-marriage/


and if that doesn't interest you, have a cute corgi picture:

source: http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m2hzvach0i1qi0jmeo1_1280.jpg