What we can't have

People always seem to want what they can't have, but why is that? What makes the forbidden so appealing? I mean it can't just be a coincidental that people tend to be attracted to things they can't have, because something that happens on that big of a scale. It seems to be part of human nature.

Perhaps it goes back to Eve wanting to taste the one fruit she was told she couldn't eat, but that just begs the question why she wanted to. Throughout my short life I have seen almost everyone I know crave something that they couldn't have at one time or another, myself included. In fact, I have spent almost half of my life after something that I was clearly never going to get. I got so caught up in wanting this thing, or should I say person, that I convinced myself I was in love. Now I certainly loved this boy, I had known him for the greater part of my life, almost all of it in fact, and I certainly cared for him. So, as I said, I did love him, as anyone loves a friend for that long, but was I in love?

This is something I have struggled with for the past couple of years. It is less important to sense my motivations now, because I have found someone else is perfect, and even when he isn't, I think he is. So whether I am really in love doesn't seem as pertinent. Yet, the question still plays at my mind of why I thought I might be. Was I simply giving in to my humanity and going for what was forbidden as everyone else does, or was I protecting myself? If I only ever chase one boy that I know deep down I will never have, then I don't have to open myself up to people that I could have and that could hurt me.

So I guess I see the human instinct to go after the unattainable as split into two categories: the feeling of breaking the rules when we finally get it, as with teenagers that date what is forbidden, and simply put, because we are cowards. We are simply hiding. So have I been hiding all these years, or was it real? I may never know, and perhaps I don't need to.

Young and in love

To be young and in love is a cherished thing. It is the kind of thing that older generations look onto with sweet memories and a hint of jealousy, but people seem to forget all of the self-questioning and anxiety that come right before the love part.
Dating is a complicated and messy game. And the younger you are the less you know how to navigate it. Starting around middle school (not counting the "you're my girlfriend now" of younger years) you wander through the maze of self-doubt, confusion, peer pressure, and expectation. You feel like you have to live up to an expectation of what dating is. There are emotional and physical expectations. When do I kiss them? Who should be my first kiss? what do I do with my hands? but let's focus on the emotional side. When we are young it seems like we rush into the label of love, likely because we are supposed to. So when people envy the young and in love, maybe they should be questioning.

Pick me! Pick me!

The school year is quickly approaching once again and I find myself not worried about the work load, or the new situations, or even the hectic schedule of balancing, class, schoolwork, actual work, my social life, my boyfriend, and my field work. In fact, I'm actually excited for the semester to begin. The thing that is weighing on me is something I have faced for the past couple of semesters: audition season. Now for those of you that either don't know me or haven't heard my ultimate dream, I want to get into the comedy theatre biz. Now don't get me wrong, I love the idea of getting my teaching licenses but, there is nothing that beats being on stage for me.
There are a number of comedy troupes at my university which I would love to be a part of, but so far, I haven't exactly had much luck getting them as excited about me. So should I bother trying again? It already could be a busy semester for me and is it worth the possible added stress? Plus, despite getting closer each semester, I am tired of the rejection.
So to try or not to try? Hmmm.....

The other night I went out with some friends. Painting the town red and all that young adult, barhopping stuff. While out and about, one of my friends was deciding whether or not to text this guy and tell him to come out with us. The age old problem. 
Now this isn't the first young person who seems concerned with whether or not they should talk to the person they are attracted to. You like someone but you are worried they will think it is too desperate or they aren't attracted back or what if they do like me back?Well that justs opens another can of worms, doesn't it?
So here is my solution. Instead of getting so stuck in the what-ifs of your own mind just simplify it. Easier said than done you say? Wrong. Think of them as someone else, like a friend or a sibling. But they aren't, you may respond. So what? When in doubt about whether or not to talk to that special crush ask how you would act if this were someone else. Would you text this to that other person you thought of? If so, then just do it. Take the stress out of the decision. This can help you out until you come up with a more long term plan for whether or not you want to kick it up a notch with the flirting.